Sunday, June 2, 2013

If You Like It You Should've Put a Ring on It

On May 22nd, 2013...the most unbelievable thing happened.  It still makes me close my eyes and breathe deep and relive the moment while I feel the smile start to spread. 

It was Heather's 36th birthday and she had been arranging a birthday party for herself for several weeks.  She invited people.  She picked the place. 

And all the while...I thought it was a little odd that she was planning a birthday party...because she doesnt really LIKE birthday parties.  But oh well, she is getting up there in age ya know so I thought maybe she was warming up to the idea of celebrations.

I guess she had expected about 6 people to come.  About 18 showed up. 

No worries.  The Fish House accommodated us.

Heather's brother Corbin came down and they had rode together.  Travis and I rode with my sister, in order to get there early and make sure we could get a table or 8.  Well Heather and Corbin were taking forever to get to her own damn I was getting just a teensy weensy bit annoyed.  They finally showed up though and the party got under way.  The entire time though, Heather was acting all anxious...even more than normal.  I was going to go get her birthday cupcakes  out of the truck and she wouldn't let me.  She said that she would get them.  Or Corbin could get them.  Which made no sense to me and so I got a little more teensy weensy bit annoyed...but tried to be the good girlfriend and not concern myself with why my girlfriend was crazy.

Then, she stood up.  And started talking. 

And I was said out loud, to no one in particular "Is she giving a birthday speech"?  Heather doesn't talk by choice in front of groups. 

And then she started thanking everyone for coming and started to get choked which I thought to myself "WOw, she must be really happy that everyone came to help her celebrate"...

And then she reached across me and Corbin handed her a box.  She said "Hopefully this will be the best birthday ever"...

And she got down on one knee. 

Here is the video.  If you can watch it, look how nervous Heather is.  Our friend Natalie is filming, because Heather is supposed to be standing up.  She is pretending to look at pictures with Travis.  Watch Heather rub the chair and breathe, and then rub the chair....

And said "I love you. Will you marry me?"

At some point, I snatched the ring from her hand and put it on my finger.  Damn it! I was just so excited.

It was really the most surreal moment of my life.  Never in my life would I have thought that when and if she finally proposed, that she would do it in public...and in front of people.  I thought maybe in the back yard while picking up dog poop she might just stop and give me a ring. 

But no.  She did all of it for me.  It was never a birthday party for her, that was just a way to get everyone there.  And she had picked Fish House because 3 years ago that's where we came out as a couple to most of our work friends....and did naughty things in the bathroom...and standing up in public, and sneaking around behind my back for weeks to find me the most perfect ring and having the ring built...that was all for me.

It was beautiful.  And it was perfect.  And my sister was there, and her brother was there, and our closest friends...

And it made me so happy.  I can't really explain it.  I can't do it justice.

So I am engaged!!!  Who knows when the wedding will be!  Heather's rule is that it has to be legal in the state we live it could be a few months, or a few years.  We will cross that bridge when we come to it.  Ya'll better start saving up for a trip to Florida for a wedding though!!  It's gonna be one hell of a party :)

The double headed gold unicorn was a gift to heather from my friend Travis.  It is the tackiest thing ever and we saw it at a used game shop...we couldn't miss the opportunity to snap a little photo with it.


  1. OMG congratulations!! So happy for you two! Thanks for sharing the video & pics!

  2. Congratulations! I wish you much happiness!

  3. Already knowing and sending my congratulations I won't say no to another opportunity. Congratulations to you both! Watching the video again made me tear up again. Love to both of you.xx

  4. Congratulations! Fingers crossed that legality thing happens soon for you two lovebirds!

  5. Congratulations what a sweet story!!!

  6. Congrats! So happy for you both!

  7. Hooray!!! Congratulations!! Wishing you and Heather all the best. Let's hope the Sunshine State sees the light and makes it all legal. Congratulations, again.


  8. YAY!!! Have been living vicariously via FB - so thrilled for both of you! Congratulations - you have an amazing woman there!

  9. So wonderful! Hopefully that wedding will be able to happen sooner rather than later! Wishing you both nothing but the best, because you deserve it!

  10. So exciting!! I am so happy for you two!!! :) xoxo

  11. Hi Amy,
    I have read your blog for many years but have never commented (bad Karen). I read this post last night with tears running down my face. I am soooooo pleased for you an Heather. I live in Melbourne Australia and gay marriage is sadly not recognized yet. I have hope that this will change very shortly. You and Heather are just meant to be together and are a wonderful couple. I wish you all the love and happiness for your future together. Love Karen

  12. That is so amazing! Congratulations and I hope you can get married very very soon! Beautiful ring!

  13. OMG! Congratulations...that was so beautiful to watch...she looked so nervous rubbing the chair :)

  14. congratulations :D she looked so nervous before she stood up, and hopefully it will be legal everywhere soon. It is finally legal in Iceland.

  15. YAY! Congratulations to you both! Love the video...thanks for letting us be a "part" of your special moment!

  16. So unbelievably happy for you and Heather... I am sure that the wedding will be a total BLAST when it gets put together. Can't wait to hear all of the details.
    Lots of love xoxo

  17. I loved seeing this on Facebook...and it still made me tear up reading it here! Congrats girly!!

  18. That's such a sweet recap - I love it! Congrats!!!

  19. Oooooohhh..............I'm so HAPPY for you both! Thanks for sharing!



  20. Ohhhh... that was so damn sweet. congratulation to the both of you.... many many years of happiness.

  21. How sweet! Congratulations to you both.

    Also, your blog = awesome! You just got a new follower. :)