Okay, I know no one asked my opinion...but since it is my blog I can give it. I was reading through the introductions on LBT and someone said that they haven't told anyone about their band...including their husband. She told him she went in for Hernia surgery.
This is different from NOT telling people. This is different from choosing NOT to tell coworkers, etc. This is lying to your partner. And I think that is horrible. What if something went wrong and you needed medical attention and your husband to help? I just can't imagine keeping such a thing from someone you love and share your life with.
Of course, I guess she never said she loved him in her post. It just bothered me.
Okay...thanks for listening!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
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WOW...that is CRAZY!!!! I told my Boyfriend he didnt want me to do it because he said I was perfect already but I told him i was doing it anyways, I would never be able to keep something like that from him and we arent even married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI just found the post that you were reading on LBT CRAZY-NESS, Im still in shock on how someone can do that.
ReplyDeleteMe I tell everybody, no shame on that.
ReplyDeleteIt bugs the hell out of me, too. I know a lady that didn't tell her kids, her husband is the only one that knows. She had RNY like I did, and told her kids (who are close in age to mine) that she was away on a nursing conference. I know that my recovery time after surgery was about two weeks, not including the abdominal tear. HOW DO YOU HIDE THAT FROM YOUR KIDS?
ReplyDeleteI've been up front with the kids and the rest of our family about all of this. I can't imagine them not knowing. My kids are my biggest cheerleaders, right with Brian! How could I NOT do this without them?
I'm secretive, but not that secretive. I told my hubby, kids and parents. I wouldn't be able to do this without my hubby.
ReplyDeleteHow does on hide the scars from their husband?! WOW! Must not be any sexy action going on in their house!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe more I got thinking about this, the more I decided that they must have some serious issues. BC...think about it. He never went to the doctors? Or wondered about the preop apps? DIdnt he visit her in the hospital (i guess she could have had same day surgery)...and Tiffani is right...se sexy time in their house. I just had to say something here on my blog bc I didnt want to say it to her (unless she asked)!
ReplyDeleteHow sad that his lady thinks it's ok to hide something this big from a person who should love her unconditionally. I agree with everyone above: not good, but again, very sad. And strange.
ReplyDeleteI went back and Looked on LBT on that thread and someone asked her why she didnt tell her husband, she hasnt responded yet.
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine not telling my husband. Other than my doctors, he's the only one who would see me naked and see my scars. lol
ReplyDeleteI am a very private person so I chose not to share my choice to band with many people, my mom and dad, my husband, and three friends know, that's all. Perhaps in time I'll be more willing to share that but not yet. So I respect anyone's decision to keep it private, but you're right, if she needed medical care, her husband wouldn't know and that could ultimately cost her, her life depending on the circumstances. Scary!