I have a bone to pick this fine morning. On several accounts, and let me tell you...I ALMOST don't care if I offend anyone.
Good morning! Hope everyone is well.
I am glad the political season is over and I am glad the majority of us are still friends on Facebook. However, I DID delete several people over the last few months for anything that I found ignorant, hateful, or mean-spirited. I don't care if you voted for Obama, Romney, or Roseanne Barr...but here is an example of something a "friend" posted on election night. This person is a someone we see and spend time with at least once a week at softball, and that I would really say is a friend.
I posted a picture of my ballot (which may or may not be illegal in the state of Florida...but I didn't know) showing that I voted for Obama. The caption of that picture said something like "Here's hoping I wake up in the morning one step closer to being able to marry the love of my life, a right that other taxpayers get to enjoy".
I mean, regardless of who you voted for, I think it would be safe to say that Obama is a smidge more pro-gay than Romney...
Anywhoozle...so I posted that, and my friend wrote on my status "Where is the fucking dislike button".
Strike one. And yes, he might have been disliking the Obama vote, and NOT the statement about marrying Heather...but still...unnecessary.
But THEN...THEN...he wrote a little status update of his own. I would give it to you verbatim but he has since deleted his facebook account:
"I wish people would keep there ignorant fucking political statements to themselves. If you are going to vote for a stupid fucking ni**er (and he spelled it out) then you don't give a shit about his country or what it was founded on".
Oh sweet grapefruit. You've got to be kidding me. WHO uses that word on facebook? Who says something so hateful and full of ignorance? I wish I could have deleted him twice. I expected more from him. And I realize we get all fired up about politics, religion, and other things that are so personal...but never would that be called for.
We ran into him on Saturday night while out eating. I did not speak to him or respond to his texts. He text me and asked me why I was so mad. And I told him. I told him...and I haven't heard from him since. Good riddance.
Liars in our community
I do not understand bloggers, youtubers, facebookers who are WLS patients who only share the good. OR...better yet. LIE about how good they are.
A couple of examples, and both are banders. I know one bander on Facebook who loves to post what she eats. And the posts are ALWAYS healthy. But this person still weighs, I would guess, close to 300 pounds. If you really only eat that nonsense you are posting, you would probably weigh a little less. Be honest. Do you think that twisting the truth helps the people in the community that are struggling? No. And I get it. You want to feel special and high and mighty.
I ain't buying it.
Like that time I told you about another bandster who during dinner shamed the rest of us and complained about the unhealthy food choices provided for our meal...but later I caught her walking out of a restraunt with a big old cheeseburger...on her way to smoke a cigarette. (I realize some of you are smokers...but none of you are saying "I am the PERFECT lapbandster and live a completly healthy life and blah blah".
That's okay. Karma.
But my point IS, I reckon...if I do have a point...is that this is a daily struggle for us. We struggle with working out, with food choices, with life, with the tool inside of us...and pretending you are perfect is a disservice to all of us.
Back To Facebook
Okay. So maybe I see a pattern here. Maybe I should get OFF of Facebook. But yesterday someone on my friends list, and a reader of this blog, commented on a picture that I guess what posted by a radio station. It was a picture of an overweight girl, taken from behind, standing in line at a fast food restaraunt. The girl was very overweight and had an unfortunate body shape and was wearing some clothes that were not flattering. The caption on the picture, written by the disc jockey, was saying things along the lines of: I will take #8, #10, etc.
I only noticed it bc my friend had commented. And I clicked on it in hopes that her comment was blasting the piece of shit who thought it was funny to make fun of an overweight girl. She wasn't blasting him, although some others were. So good for them. It was a disgusting post that lead to disgusting hateful statements based on the person's size and shape. And what if that picture was of a teenager? A young girl struggling with herself? What if she saw that post and all the hateful things people said?
WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE????
Why can't we all just hug and get along? Why can't we all just sit in hair brushing circles and pet each other?
WHY I ask you?