tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post2378996223278363301..comments2024-03-01T06:21:31.345-06:00Comments on Once Upon A Time...In the Land of Cheese and Sunkist: A Million Thank You's...Amy W.http://www.blogger.com/profile/15765516850913923317noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-70206658819084387012010-05-16T20:10:16.912-05:002010-05-16T20:10:16.912-05:00Hey Ames... just wanted to send a sincere thanks f...Hey Ames... just wanted to send a sincere thanks for letting me know you're reading. I've been thinking a LOT about you - and praying - for what it's worth. Love ya. Can't WAIT to meet you in person in Chicago... such a great freakin' blogging friend.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272835472155583191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-1963309273600748672010-05-14T18:55:09.594-05:002010-05-14T18:55:09.594-05:00salutesalutekarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07788284647338194865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-19537350407165015512010-05-13T15:16:04.090-05:002010-05-13T15:16:04.090-05:00p.s that was great advice from fat bastardp.s that was great advice from fat bastardkarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07788284647338194865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-49460544965623720352010-05-13T15:11:44.142-05:002010-05-13T15:11:44.142-05:00Well since I have been reading from the beginning ...Well since I have been reading from the beginning forward - I did not realize you were in crisis mode until today. I am crying for you because I know these ambiguous feelings you are having. I wish I had a perfect answer for you that I could wrap up in a pretty little bow. I just finishes July 2009 today boy do I have a lot of catching up to do. Keeping you in my prayers.karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07788284647338194865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-50192517130043186302010-05-13T07:58:23.869-05:002010-05-13T07:58:23.869-05:00Amy,
I want to apologize for coming in so late on...Amy,<br /><br />I want to apologize for coming in so late on your dilemma. I am just getting caught back up on everything since my surgery last week.<br />I really feel your pain and I hope sharing some of my thoughts and experiences with you may help.<br />It’s funny how someone asking you if your weight loss is impacting your decision making right now caused you to stop and think. I would think that it would have to make you stop and think. Our egos are fragile things and there are so many things that factor into the way we perceive ourselves, and yes, how we perceive ourselves will most definitely impact our relationships with others. I work in the local political world and I know that in the past I have been somewhat prejudiced against because of my appearance. It’s almost like some that I have meet refused to take any points that I have made seriously because “if I knew what I was talking about I would be able to push the dinner plates away a little earlier.” Once I allowed that to enter my mush of a brain, sometimes I would restrain from making a point when I otherwise should. Therefore, I made the problem that someone else had my own. It’s big mind f!@$, aint it?<br />The bottom line is, the psychological fix to our self perception may take much longer than the weight loss effort.<br />Does this have anything to do with your situation? Only you can answer that.<br />I was married in 1996 at the age of 22. My wife was only 20. Statistically, we were way too young. In the end, my choice was a good one as we are approaching 16 years and still going strong. I didn’t mind making the commitment then because I believed that the growing up we had to do we would do together. One fundamental truth is that we never stop learning and growing and I was very certain that I wanted to grow with this person. Don’t get me wrong though, bumps in the road there were . . . even craters and detours.<br />Early on, yes, I had doubts. But it came down to one question. Were my doubts there because I questioned my role in a marriage to this woman, or were these doubts existing because I questioned my role in marriage all together? After self examination, maybe the same kind of self examination you are undergoing now, I found that my doubts were the latter of the two. Problem identified and now I was able to do what I needed to do to address those doubts. And I’m glad I did.<br />There is no question that marriage is hard work. In some cases, the hardest thing you will have to do. Your outlook on life’s core values, everything from religion and politics to whether or not you must fully rinse food from your plates prior to putting them in the dishwasher will be tried – more than once. Then, when and if kids enter the picture, these challenges will magnify.<br />I have always believed that marriage is forever. Just like the entities of your siblings and parents. You have undoubtedly faced those challenges with your parents and other family members. So, do you see Tracey as someone that you can face those challenges with as a one, single married entity? Again, a question that you and he must approach together.<br />Lastly, I have always been a believer in seeking help from people who have knowledge. My wife and I did not seek outside help but at times I wish we did. I want to suggest to you that seek guidance from a religious entity or even a marriage counselor. It is quite popular for couples to meet a few times with a marriage counselor who will help you and Tracey together uncover certain truths and help with this examination. You and/or Tracey may snub this idea at first thinking “who knows us better than us?” And you maybe right. But I consider it talking. That’s really all it is. Could it hurt?<br />Well, I hope sharing my perspective with you didn’t offend you. Certainly that was not my intent. Whatever you decide, I certainly wish you the best of luck.<br /><br /><br />Jordo, the Fat BastardFat Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03184765010430836874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-43134111338380731242010-05-12T16:19:35.934-05:002010-05-12T16:19:35.934-05:00I just found your blog yesterday (from Diary of a ...I just found your blog yesterday (from Diary of a -former- fat chick. I started at the beginning and am up to june 2009. Reading on my breaks at work- cuz that's what work is really for - right! I could so hang out with you. I totally understand the reverse body dysmorphic syndrome because I have the same thing. Anyway just want to say Hi and Thanks for sharing all the "gut wrenching" - ha ha get it - details. karenkarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07788284647338194865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-87531841911379217302010-05-11T20:08:28.852-05:002010-05-11T20:08:28.852-05:00I read your last post, but did not have a chance t...I read your last post, but did not have a chance to comment. I have been thinking about you lately and hope you are doing ok. Big Hug!!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01677626406016281434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-74455510786468761282010-05-11T19:56:24.557-05:002010-05-11T19:56:24.557-05:00Some how I missed your last post..big hugs being s...Some how I missed your last post..big hugs being sent your way! Love you girlie!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04222478828081835489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-30676033963707384562010-05-11T18:25:28.770-05:002010-05-11T18:25:28.770-05:00XOXOXOXOXOXOBonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00603681230277050772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-69347338351274746082010-05-11T17:24:18.926-05:002010-05-11T17:24:18.926-05:00Welcome back, Amy. We missed you!Welcome back, Amy. We missed you!Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10608746357148522975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-28397327555832420762010-05-11T17:01:55.418-05:002010-05-11T17:01:55.418-05:00Take your time. Take all the time you need. This i...Take your time. Take all the time you need. This is a tough one. You and Tracey have ALL my love, affection, adoration, respect and my ear if you need it. Luvs ya, BBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12120886921730599132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-33466495122418413992010-05-11T16:27:23.736-05:002010-05-11T16:27:23.736-05:00Thinking of you and hope you find the answers you ...Thinking of you and hope you find the answers you seek soonGirl Bandithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10334455002394539268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-64496342156194772132010-05-11T13:45:49.703-05:002010-05-11T13:45:49.703-05:00Always thinking of you as well. You will get ther...Always thinking of you as well. You will get there.Pamela E. Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14781902368781617527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-33707260115390187462010-05-11T13:31:14.262-05:002010-05-11T13:31:14.262-05:00amy... The feelings you are having are normal.. bu...amy... The feelings you are having are normal.. but I know you love Tracy and you will be just fine!! Its just that you have lost the "old" you and are trying to find the "new" you.. you have an amazing supportive boyfriend!!! I just want to add that I am off work until the 20th and I am completely bored!! I usually can count on your blogs to take me out of my boredom, but the problem is, you have not posted!!! GRRRRRRR Get some good posts going.. PLEASE!?!?!?!!? I know i am crazy, sorry!!!!The "new" Katie!https://www.blogger.com/profile/00831851208712248137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-50609087642846956722010-05-11T11:17:14.334-05:002010-05-11T11:17:14.334-05:00Thinking of you... thanks for the quick update! Ca...Thinking of you... thanks for the quick update! Can't wait for the upcoming topic! :)Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11603347114229773441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-12242708302105049852010-05-11T11:09:15.850-05:002010-05-11T11:09:15.850-05:00Hey Amy..you have been in my thoughts all weekend....Hey Amy..you have been in my thoughts all weekend...I can totally understand what your going through and how you feel. Losing this weight changes us...makes us think differently about things. In a few days I will have been married for 16 years..I can't hardly believe it..but I agree with Cara's advice...if seeing him walk out the door never to return would break your heart, take your time and really think through this...he hasn't changed, you are the one that has changed. It's a big decision, and my thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs!susieq4givnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04933154527889255537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-50746822877936806252010-05-11T09:36:34.307-05:002010-05-11T09:36:34.307-05:00{{{HUGS}}} to you!{{{HUGS}}} to you!DBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12171014224700094700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-60372943163234095322010-05-11T08:51:50.117-05:002010-05-11T08:51:50.117-05:00Hey girl, I have been so busy and just now catchin...Hey girl, I have been so busy and just now catching up on blogs.....just read your last post!!!! So sorry you are going through a tough time :( *tear* I am thinking about and hope you find PEACE!!!!!!!!! Hugs hugs hugs!!!!!!!!!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04960461498966305137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-24502650518168161332010-05-11T08:31:25.452-05:002010-05-11T08:31:25.452-05:00i'm at a loss on what to say. i ready your oth...i'm at a loss on what to say. i ready your other post and wanted to say something but didn't know what. now i feel bad for NOT saying anything. i'm sorry. i think you're great and hope that you find the answers you are looking for soon. i'm thinking about ya!<br /><br />oh...and sometimes those palm readers are kinda cool. i had one done one time by a makeup artist/dragqueen (at the dillards lancome counter no less!) and it was very interesting!Hollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16712903370905339260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-48762063770923777932010-05-11T07:52:15.509-05:002010-05-11T07:52:15.509-05:00<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 :) :) :) :) :)<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 :) :) :) :) :)Collshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14278693592531685218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-66212414846606448442010-05-11T07:27:28.720-05:002010-05-11T07:27:28.720-05:00I am sorry that you are going through a rough time...I am sorry that you are going through a rough time. This is truly a difficult decision. As I was dealing with a difficult situation recently, someone said "be gentle with yourself." I hope you will do the same. <br /><br />When making difficult decisions--especially those of the emotional variety--I often have to remind myself that it's not always about doing what's right. It's about doing whatever will bring you peace.<br /><br />That is my wish for you...peace.Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17632398564742391406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-70365848711567667982010-05-11T02:37:20.232-05:002010-05-11T02:37:20.232-05:00Amy
In defense of the boys, we are not very good ...Amy<br /><br />In defense of the boys, we are not very good at these emotional issues, and that is probably why you did not get any male comments .It does not mean that we do not care or understand what you are going through...I am sure you will make the right decision....Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09461247264194926667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-40982022983507681202010-05-11T00:41:26.889-05:002010-05-11T00:41:26.889-05:00Hi Amy, I only caught up on posts today I think e...Hi Amy, I only caught up on posts today I think everyone has basically covered all angles but I do want to say this....I walked away once from something special thinking that I wanted something else...it turned out it wasn't all that greener on that side and I have lived to regret it, unfortunately I was not able to go back..You will make the right decision for you when the time is right. I want you to know that I am thinking of you and sending you hugs. xxRoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13340778893952565352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-74490731351246692062010-05-10T22:23:08.061-05:002010-05-10T22:23:08.061-05:00yeah i definitely have been thinking about you :-)...yeah i definitely have been thinking about you :-) can't wait for the juicy topic! wait for it....waiiiiit for itCChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01947137883748295392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-77482269468175264742010-05-10T22:19:05.177-05:002010-05-10T22:19:05.177-05:00Love you Amykins! Muuuuwwwaaahhhh!Love you Amykins! Muuuuwwwaaahhhh!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00825425735172749255noreply@blogger.com