tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post6715553040659396759..comments2024-03-01T06:21:31.345-06:00Comments on Once Upon A Time...In the Land of Cheese and Sunkist: I'll Have Some Fat, With A Side of Self LoathingAmy W.http://www.blogger.com/profile/15765516850913923317noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-64716467046418450702010-10-19T01:33:49.507-05:002010-10-19T01:33:49.507-05:00I almost didn't recognize you in the picture w...I almost didn't recognize you in the picture without a toe point!!Carolynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-77551091941800300272010-10-16T01:25:17.982-05:002010-10-16T01:25:17.982-05:00I have a daughter. Who is an attention whore. Who ...I have a daughter. Who is an attention whore. Who talks too much. Who never knows when to shut up. And who spanks me and says "Don't say stupid stuff like that!" when I call myself fat. <br /><br />So go figure. <br /><br />I can identify with a lot of what you mention about growing up, your mom, etc. Only I was the eldest, so I think I understand your sister's position a little bit better. I wasn't ragged on, but there was definitely more love and encouragement and comments about my appearance when I was thinner.Manic Pixie Dream Sluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16083090390604114658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-82941027100183469242010-10-15T22:07:28.282-05:002010-10-15T22:07:28.282-05:00Okay so when are you going to get pregnant? Becau...Okay so when are you going to get pregnant? Because you need to be a mom! To a daughter, preferably.<br /><br />I am struggling with this now. And the really hard part is I thought I could protect my daughter by doing many of the things you mentioned...but some of it is just out of my control. Its hard. I need to do my own mother/daughter post. Ive been putting it off.<br /><br />Thank you for writing this.Genhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11414571860592267584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-54831286626599670912010-10-15T00:17:01.808-05:002010-10-15T00:17:01.808-05:00I liked both of your last two posts Amy-the first ...I liked both of your last two posts Amy-the first made me laugh and agree while the second really got me to thinking. I agree mostly with you but felt the need to write a big long saga on my blog (I was rejected here because i went over the length limit).<br /><br />I like your Halloween costume plan :)..I might have to come to a similar arrangement with my husband.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965135571189867376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-35504052275106506092010-10-15T00:10:32.018-05:002010-10-15T00:10:32.018-05:00Excellent two posts AMY...I was a chubby kid who f...Excellent two posts AMY...I was a chubby kid who felt fat my whole life. My mom used to compare my tiny sister and I by giving me advice on dressing so that I could camouflage my tummy. She would say "us big girls need to do this." She was overweight too. I felt fat as a teenager (what I weigh now) and quickly became obese following the birth of my three oldest daughters.<br /><br />I am a mom-Three of my daughters were raised by an obese mom (the fourth gets this thinner mom)and two of them have weight issues. One is obese the other yo-yos between healthy and overweight. The third is having trouble keeping weight on right now. I believe that I could have taught them to eat my healthily but I believe they were destined to be fat or not before or soon after they were born. My obese daughter has been HUNGRY since she was a baby. She was like a heat seeking missile when she nursed. She was a human vacuum as a toddler (i pulled pennies and rocks out of her mouth frequently) and she enjoyed food more than her sisters. I believe her thermometer is set high. <br /><br />Having said that, however, I raised her to be proud and that BBW can get dates and live happy fulfilled lives. I am glad that she has a better self-image than I did but on the down side. I have now found a way for her to feel more energy. Be healthier and not have to deal with the anti-obesity slant of society. She has told me that she is happy as a BBW and is not interested.<br /><br />I support her decision but I worry about her health and I do hope someday she will join me with this lapband gig or some other pathway so that she can know the joy/energy/comfort of feeling thinner and healthier.<br /><br />My second weight struggling daughter has only a slightly off kilter weight thermostat and has figured out strategies to battle it (sometime winning and sometimes sliding back). She struggles a bit more with her self-image and has felt the sting of words said by unthinking classmates about her weight. She seeks thinness with exercise and dieting. I wish there was a tool that even those who suffer moderate weight issues could have to help them too.<br /><br />I probably should have posted on my page too :)Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965135571189867376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-55900547726830584742010-10-14T21:03:05.722-05:002010-10-14T21:03:05.722-05:00Beautifully said... as always, You are amazing to ...Beautifully said... as always, You are amazing to read. I love the things you would tell your daughter and living by example is best. My experiences weren't bad either growing up but I did follow my family's example, still do, in fact which is why I am glad there is 1000 miles between us. I adore you! *M*DiZneDiVahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17438098766424979772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-67358449164047504602010-10-14T19:08:38.890-05:002010-10-14T19:08:38.890-05:00You are just the sweetest. And guess what, my daug...You are just the sweetest. And guess what, my daughter (who happens to weigh a bit more than me right now) is "an attention whore, who talks too much, and does not know when to keep her mouth shut". And I love her because she is her own person, doesn't put up with any bullshit (got that from me!) and I hope I didn't pass on all the shame I had about fat. She is a pretty good kid, even though she's 27 now. I think I need her to do a post so I can really learn how I raised her. The good the bad and the ugly. But mostly good.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400904095865742386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-26448025711068297932010-10-14T18:57:04.204-05:002010-10-14T18:57:04.204-05:00Great post, Amy. I don't have daughters but I ...Great post, Amy. I don't have daughters but I do know boys feel the same. My oldest due to a sedentary lifestyle has put on a few kilos and HATES IT! Hes very aware of being just a touch overweight. So no matter boy or girl, its our job to raise them to be healthy, happy individuals. I love your way of thinking xxTHE DASH!https://www.blogger.com/profile/08658679261310931377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-5138122659196023282010-10-14T13:37:30.337-05:002010-10-14T13:37:30.337-05:00This was the kind of answer I wish I could have gi...This was the kind of answer I wish I could have given but couldn't find the words.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09210759567767466760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-86154470742461225882010-10-14T13:29:27.874-05:002010-10-14T13:29:27.874-05:00I don't think you could have said it any bette...I don't think you could have said it any better! I AM a mom, and I couldn't have put it better. The focus needs to be on what is healthy, not on what will make you skinny or overweight. We do not keep junk in my house. My daughter's idea of a snack is an apple. Don't get me wrong, she loves her sugar, but I figure she gets enough of it when she is not with me, so I don't need to supply it to. The best you can do as a parent is to keep your kids active, and teach them that taking care of our bodies, no matter the size, is important. And to show them that you love them, and yourself. Thanks for posting this!Justawallflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17735468144410586496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-61899885510160484112010-10-14T13:20:43.893-05:002010-10-14T13:20:43.893-05:00I think being a child once and having a mother ful...I think being a child once and having a mother fully qualifies you to speak on the subject. As I said on Draz's blog, I think setting a good example is the best thing mothers can do.MandaPandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03362923550051566309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-80556351317535341802010-10-14T12:55:57.972-05:002010-10-14T12:55:57.972-05:00Is the girl-mullet called a gullet? You were an a...Is the girl-mullet called a gullet? You were an adorable kid and not fat at all.<br /><br /><br />Thank you for sharing your perspective. I think you're on the right track. You'll make a great mom.Amanda Kiskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08035180757671095192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-51150422748662804832010-10-14T11:18:41.140-05:002010-10-14T11:18:41.140-05:00BTW-you look fantastic! I haven't visited you...BTW-you look fantastic! I haven't visited your blog in awhile (no idea why you're not on my blogroll, I tried, I swear....and will try again) and your progress is amazing. You sound very happy. Your post WAS GREAT! Well thoughout & not judgmental (which some people with opinions can be). Loved the read, thought you should know!Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05804162038632872727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-29696820414987943492010-10-14T10:55:49.523-05:002010-10-14T10:55:49.523-05:00Thank you - I hope my friend reads this....I know ...Thank you - I hope my friend reads this....I know it'll help her. <br /><br />Did I mention I love you?♥ Drazil ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/10177140029694038645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-81430629635488565132010-10-14T10:33:24.894-05:002010-10-14T10:33:24.894-05:00Everything you said is right on. I too thought I ...Everything you said is right on. I too thought I was such a whale as a youngster. I was a size 9 in HS and thought I should be on display at Sea World. Now, my leg would not even fit in to a size 9 jeans. :) Btw, you look GREAT!<br /><br />-Lisa<br />http://inweighovermyhead.blogspot.com/InWeighOverMyHeadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01032540746184680521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1746868749311455784.post-12512750754499871922010-10-14T10:18:46.214-05:002010-10-14T10:18:46.214-05:00Great post. You will/would be a wonderful mom. I...Great post. You will/would be a wonderful mom. I hope that we as a society are becoming more aware of how we portray body image and messages to children. <br />I, like you, was not fat as a child but sure thought I was. Similarly, my brother told me I had cellulite at about 10 (do you think we share a sibling?) Because of that, and the fact that I was about a foot taller than all my classmates, I thought I was huge and started my first self-imposed diet at 11. I've been yoyoing ever since. Funny how a few words, if not refuted by others - like a really conscientious parent - can cause such self loathing.Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00560943513123616515noreply@blogger.com